Dollar store ovulation test?!

    Before I knew I was pregnant with my son, I decided that instead of spending too much on a test from a drugstore, I would test out the accuracy of the dollar store pregnancy tests. It was positive! And because I had only spent $1 I could purchase at least five more...just to make sure. I did eventually purchase a "regular" test from a pharmacy, which confirmed my SIX dollar store pregnancy tests were in fact accurate. I was pregnant!
   Flash forward a few years, my partner and I are planning to expand our family. She's going to carry our baby. We've found the dollar store ovulation tests to be just as accurate as my pregnancy tests were, years ago. Just a little tip :)

The store has been out for a few weeks, so we stocked up during this trip to the dollar tree.

I grew up with a gay mom.

  I don't remember the exact moment I put two and two together that my mothers "roommate" wasn't just sharing her room. Our house had 4 bedrooms...two of which weren't being lived in. But I do remember the moment I asked her if she was gay.

  I was probably in 5th or 6th grade. I had anticipated asking her all.day.long. I had knots in my stomach and the butterflies that are generally associated with good things, but this time it was the anticipation of a conversation I did not want to have.
My mom could tell something was bothering me, but every time I would work up the nerve to speak, I would chicken out. Finally, I was ready. We were both downstairs, I turned to her. She asked me, "What, schuyler, what is it?" I screamed, "Are you gay"? And ran up the stairs before she could even answer.

  

One of these things is not like the others...

         This is my job. To say I'm lucky in an understatement. I'm incredibly thankful that I'm able to have work right now that keeps me home. My goal is to make this a family business, but right now I'm boarding dogs in my home, slowly adding more services for my clients. I love my job :)

First day of summer camp!

            The first week off from school I was worried I wouldn't be able to keep my 6 year old entertained! But instead, I realized just how much I missed him. He's with his father every other weekend leaving me with after school and every other weekend to spend time with him. I know that may seem like a lot, but it really isn't. He's in after school care because I have to work. We rush home, have dinner, and shortly after, it's time for bed. I have him enrolled in 3 weeks worth of camp this summer, so I'm sure there will plenty of time to spend together!

Keeping his lunch interesting and colorful :)

Xo

Lesbian point of view: Difference between dating a man vs.woman

There are a few major differences when dating a woman.

Before I met my girlfriend I dated men...and only men. I had always wondered what it would be like to date someone of the same sex. Would the dynamic really be that different? Yes and no.

      1. The Sex. There, I said it. I need to get this one out of the way immediately!
I don't know why  more lesbians don't talk about this, or if we just got really lucky with each other, but OH.MY.GOD.
I remember watching the "L Word" in my new lesbian days and thinking "C'mon, these sex scenes aren't real. They're over doing it just a tad, it can't be THAT good.
I was wrong, very, very wrong. It's that good and better. Maybe I'll elaborate more in another post, or maybe I'll just grin every time a guy makes some snide comment about how I'm unsatisfied. If he only knew...

     2. The Fights. Fighting with a girl has proven to be very different than fighting with guys. For one thing, sometimes the second my lady says something she know I may interpret as offensive, she's apologizing for it in the next breath. She has intuition like a man wouldn't. Other times, it's just like dating a man. She knows something is wrong but is met with the response, "I'm fine", or even better, "nothing is wrong". I remember the first time I had upset her. She started to cry, like really cry. My reaction went something like this:
 

   3. The neediness. Now this goes both ways, we're both needy. I'm just used to being the only needy one in the relationship. When was the last time your boyfriend got upset with you because you wanted to run to the store...alone? Or, have you ever had to tell your boyfriend that you couldn't cuddle for 10 minutes in the morning because you were late to work? It's funny. I adore this girl, it's just that sometimes I'm taken back by how much of a girl she is :)

   4. The sex. Did I mention the sex?

Xo

That kind of night.

We're moving  in TWO WEEKS!

Moving is universally stressful, but for us this move is extra stressful because of so many unknowns.
We have an opportunity to move to Boston, 2000 miles away from where we are now. But there are oh.so.many.strings.attached. Too many to list and it would probably bore you...

We've finally settled on staying in Austin for various reasons. One being, we would like to have another baby. You see, once upon a time I was "straight". I joke that I'm not a lesbian, but my girlfriend is, but really, I was married-to a man. The marriage didn't work out but we produced a sweet, sweet boy. His name is Ezra and he is my world!

The thought of giving him a sibling brings me so much joy because he loves people! Seriously, I am often amazed by his extrovertedness! I'm the total opposite, I re-charge when I'm alone and I value my quiet time (most moms can probably relate).
Dating a woman gives us the advantage of having another womb to carry babies. I didn't hate being pregnant but I was thankful when four years after my son was born, I finally got my body back.

Back to moving! Didn't get quite as much done today as I would have liked, but we made a dent. I'm going to settle in with my glass of wine, bag of reeses, and finish orange is the new black on netflix.

Xo

I'm probably a lesbian.

Conversation with my mom went something like this...

"So I've met someone new." I say.

"Okay, where did you meet him?" Asks my mom

"I met her playing roller derby (how cliche)." 

Pause of ohhhhh about, 5 to 7 seconds.

"Skye, I don't...I told you to be careful with that. Is it your new roommate, what about Ezra?" She asks, sounding very upset.


This is where the conversation took an ugly turn. This was coming from a woman who for the better part of my formative years was an open and out LESBIAN. I'll save that story for another blog post. She lives about 2000 miles away from me, hates to fly, but in 3 days was on a plane and sitting in my car arguing with me as we drove to my house. It was incredibly awkward and unexpected. 
I'm not saying that having your child tell you they are in a same sex relationship, seemingly out of left is easy, but I expected a tad more understanding. 
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The day I met my girlfriend, I wasn't exactly thrilled with the idea of going to another music festival in Austin, TX. But I didn't want to stay home either. I had already told friends I would meet them there, and it was only a few minutes up the road.

My first thought when I saw her, "she's definitely a lesbian".

Our mutual friend leans in real close and whispers, "hey what do you think of Nae?"

I'm really confused, Nae hadn't been there for more than a minute and our friend already wanted to get my take on her, why on earth would she even think I'd be remotely interested in this girl?

I had an inner dialogue for GOD what seemed like forever. I assumed Nae was interested, and that I definitely wasn't. I thought she was nice but couldn't see myself with someone like her.

We spent the entire rest of the night chatting, others left us alone because it was obvious something was happening. It took at least another month for things to become more clear. Neither of us thought we would be here over a year later and very much in love :)